Writing your Wedding Vows – Step by Step Guide

Heyyyyy people! It’s been a minute!!!

My life has been FULL these past months, but I am working on building structure that allows me TIME to do one of the things I really love to do– Writing & Blogging.

So stay tuneedddddd😍🥰

Nowwwww to the business of the DAY, Wedding vows. I knew I had to write this article soon because I have been getting this question a lotttttttt from my brides/ clients.

And this is because, as a culture kinda at Rightessential Events, you gotta write your vows. Not because we force our clients to do but because we vehemently encourage them to do so.

We also encourage our clients to start early by placing the activity somewhere between week 3/4 on their wedding timeline.

You can see we don’t joke with this vow thing 😀. In fact, I consider it to be far more important than the whole wedding shenanigans. It’s something to hold on to and although it requires setting aside some time for deep thinking and writing. It is well worth it.

Writing memorable wedding vows is all about speaking from the heart and putting your feelings onto paper, but it isn’t always easy…. which is why I share below tips from shutterfly.com. Let’s get into the step-by-step guide, shall we?

1. Start with a statement about who your partner is to you. Your best friend, your lover, your partner in crime, or your everything. 😋😋
2. Continue by saying what it is you love about your partner. What about this person has led you to promise forever? When did you realize you were in love? What do you miss when you’re not around each other? Jotting down all of your ideas and each of things you love about this person can make it easier to get your thoughts to together, find a theme and focus in on a few items that really stand out. Don’t worry about saying every little thing, if you were to do that your ceremony would go on forever.
3. Use a story to bring this love to life. This is a great moment to tell a story or use an anecdote to bring your love to life. A personal story is memorable.
4. Lay out exactly what it is you are promising. Make promises to your partner and vow to stick to them. Such as, “I vow to always support you,” or “I promise to never steal the covers unless, you’re hogging them.” Mention specific ways you will show your love— in romantic ways, funny ways and ways only the two of you could understand.
5. Mention specific things the two of you will do together. Continue this portion of your vows by mentioning the specific things you will accomplish together. Using phrases like: “With you,” “I will,” and “Together.”
6. Don’t forget to add that you’ll be there even when times get rough. Reassure your partner that this is for better or for worse, in sickness and in health.
7. Wrap your vows up with a look towards the future. Think about your goals, aspirations and future. Will your love help you through the home remodel? How will your love set the tone for the way you raise your family? What are you looking forward to sharing with this special person.
8. “As long as we both shall live.” End your vows with one last promise, the promise of forever, for eternity and until death do us part.

Tips for Writing Wedding Vows

If you’re having trouble with steps 1-8, don’t worry. Keep the following tips for writing your wedding vows in mind while going through the steps above:

• Start early. Begin crafting your vows early so you’ll have plenty of time to find inspiration, to procrastinate and to enjoy thinking up all the reasons you are saying, “I, Do!”
• Talk vows over with your fiancé. You’ll want to keep the final product a secret and surprise for your wedding day. Although, it can help you feel more comfortable getting started if you and your partner agree on a certain style, format or tone for your vows. Will the two of you incorporate some of the same promises as traditional wedding vows? Are you going to stick to romantic promises or incorporate a more light-hearted tone? Some couples even decide to share their vows with each other before the wedding day. The best part is that the two of you get to decide what you prefer!
• Surround yourself with memories. Whether it’s old photographs, your first love note or special keepsakes, these items will remind you of all the moments the two of you have shared with one another. One moment may remind you of another which, may lead to that one time and the next thing you know it, you’ll have too many ideas.
• Make a list. When you first sit down to write your vows, don’t be stressed about writing complete sentences. Start jotting down everything that comes to mind.
• If you get stuck, answer a few questions about your relationship.
  • Why did you decide to get married?
  • What did you think when you first saw him/her?
  • When did you realize you were in love?
  • What do you have now that you didn’t have before you met?
  • How has she/he changed your view of the world?
  • What do you miss when you’re apart from each other?
  • What hard times have you gone through together?
  • What makes your relationship tick?
• Take a break. Sometimes your best writing happens when you come back to it the next day. If you need a break, then take one. This is the reason you started early in the first place.

And that’s it’s a wrap!

Now pick up your phone and block out an hour ahead this very week to kickstart the process.

Done?

Great😍

Wishing you peace & calm as you countdown.

Your fav wedding planner,

DA